There is nothing more gratifying then having peace of mind. I lived many years in conflict with who I thought I was supposed to be and who I really am. It takes a lot of courage to make the necessary changes that need to take place in your life to bring you real peace. I have been through a lot in my life. As many of you have as well. These are the lessons I have learned along the way that have changed me at the core. I can honestly say that I am living my truth right this very moment. And it has NOT been easy getting here, I can tell you that! I am always working on bettering myself. I screw up every single day, but I can honestly say that I try. Here are some life lessons that will add strength and light to your life if you apply them!
1) You can never have peace until you are living your life in harmony with who you REALLY are. Living your truth is the most liberating feeling. And in order to live your truth you need to speak your truth. Yes, you need to speak truth to others. But more importantly, you need to speak your truth to YOU. What do you REALLY want? How do you REALLY feel? What are you REALLY afraid of in life? Asking yourself these questions and telling yourself the truth is, in my personal opinion, the most important step in finding your authenticity. Allow yourself to have an opinion that is different then what everyone else is saying. Speak up when you believe that something is or isn’t right. Get in the habit of speaking truth in every situation in life! If you are 15 minutes late for work, own it. Don’t make up an excuse and lie about it. Apologize for being late. If they ask you why you were, then tell them. I cannot tell you how many times I have had to explain to people that I spent too much time on my hair. It’s little truth’s like these that will set you free! Try it! You will be astonished at how incredible it feels to speak your truth in every situation!
2) Take responsibility for your actions. If you forgot to call someone back, just admit to it! Apologize of course, but own up to it! If you said or did something you know you shouldn’t have, instead of trying to justify it, just admit to it! Take ownership of it! Apologize for it, ask for forgiveness and then move on. Taking ownership of your actions or lack thereof, is a quality people admire and respect. Admitting that you messed up or did something you shouldn’t have is so refreshing to those around you! It’s like it gives them permission to admit that they aren’t perfect either! It’s awesome actually! Learn to laugh at it, forgive yourself for it and move the freak on.
3) Turn off your God Forsaken phone!!! There is nothing more distracting from living life and being in the moment than that stupid phone!!! There have been times where I have been with my daughter all day, yet, I was never really with her because I was distracted by emails, texts, Facebook, Twitter etc. At the end of the day I would give anything to replace those distractions with meaningful, purposeful, beautiful present and alive moments with my daughter. Anyone would. Find balance. It’s hard to do, but make it a priority to at least try. Sometimes I will delete all the distracting apps on my iPhone. That way it isn’t even there to take my attention away. I have to reinstall it to get to it which is a good reminder that it really isn’t more important then what I am doing right now.
4) “Lose yourself in the service of others” I am really working on this one. I struggle with this. I am kind of, oh…. How do you say……selfish?? Yep, I am. I have no problem helping you out or doing something for someone else if it happens to be convenient for me. But when I am asked to do something that requires changing my plans for the day, or, heaven forbid, putting in effort that I am not in the mood for, I avoid it at all costs. But, when I actually do it, I feel so fulfilled! When I look back at the times in my life when I was the happiest, it is when I had to SACRIFICE my time and energy in the service of others. Not when I got to spend that hour at the gym or get that extra time in bed in the morning. Serving someone when it is not convenient is very fulfilling. Just hard, for me at least, to actually do. I’m working on it. Lets work on it together?? Yay!
5) Write in a journal every day. There is a book called, The Artists Way. It is BRILLIANT in so many ways. But the most important lesson I took from that book was the habit of what she calls, Morning Pages. You literally sit down first thing in the morning and write 3 pages in a journal. You literally purge what is in your mind out on paper and you will DIE at what you discover about yourself!! Make it a priority to start your day with this habit. Try it for a week. Even 3 days. Just write whatever comes to your mind. It doesn’t even have to make sense. Just get it on paper. Lives will change. People will freak out. Do it.
I hope this helps a little, I know it helps me and all I can do is tell you my experiences and how I deal with them! I feel so blessed to have all of you with me on this journey. Stay tuned for more posts like this, there is so much more to come!